The phrase “finding a man who wants to be a grown-up” came up several times. This response summarized the challenge nicely: “Meeting a man who I feel compatible with, feeling attracted to that same man AND having him treat me well.” This is what all the online dating methods call the phase. Aside from my own luck and the trendy radio ads and sexy commercials, it seems as if no one’s happy.
In the beginning I was still hung up on Bad Boy, but distraction and detox (no contact with Bad Boy) really worked. Some of you were kind enough to answer my 60-second survey question: What is the single biggest challenge you’re dealing with in dating and relationships these days?
When Bad Boy reached out to me 16 months later, the addiction was genuinely dead, and I could authentically say f*** off. A’s excellent advice, detox from your Bad Boy, and if you can, find something or someone that can pull you forward into the present or the future — rather than some wistful past that you’ve idealized. If you wanted to answer but didn’t get around to it, you can do it now here.
My guy friends (also educated, attractive) complain that they get no responses and female acquaintences tell me that they get so many emails, etc, that they don’t know where to start-and often do nothing.
They don’t have time to “date around” several times a week.(actually neither would I). Women, being more vulnerable than men, are more hesitant to date online, so you get a situation where there’s a lot more men than women.
Your reactions to the “Bad Boys & Addictions” article was swift and enthusiastic.
Turns out that almost every woman has had some kind of experience with bad boys, not all of them healthy. ” Here’s one from Theresa: This post really hit me.
The cream product I use to cure it works very well, but its active ingredient appears to be urea.
How does this react with my skin to cure the problem?
Most gratifying were the responses from some of you saying, “Omigod, this is happening to me right now! I’m in a similar situation; however, I believe he’s the first man I’ve ever truly loved.